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Humble Narcissist

What do we need to unlearn in order to crush our own self-limiting beliefs?

I'm so perplexed by something. Humility. Why does humility have to be self-deprecating? The definition of humility is: A modest or low view of one's own importance or value. Let's think about that for a second. The thought I have about this is that if we have a low view of our own importance, we won't offend anyone else and make them feel less important. Like if somehow I honored my own value, that somehow I would be taking away from someone else's value? What does my own confidence and belief in my value have to do with you? What kind of flawed thinking is that?! If I am confident, it doesn't mean you can't be. We can both honor our own value! 

We are all important. I certainly do not need to think of myself as less important in order to make anyone else more important. This isn't a hierarchy... We are all love. We are the highest value of all! We are all important and it is fascinating that many of us are taught that humility is good and anything other than humility is bad. So, because I honor my own importance and value I'm narcissistic? That's strange, because I honor yours too! I happen to believe that in order to give my best-self to others, I must love myself fully first. I must engage in my own self-care and unconditional self-love.

Specifically, in our society, women are taught to be modest which literally means to be relatively limited or small. I've noticed that when women stand in their power and allow themselves to be seen, there is negative backlash. I'm always astonished by other women saying, "How dare she?! Who does she think she is?" We are also taught we are all valuable, important, and if we work hard enough we can do anything that we want. How confusing is that? Could this be where our own self-limiting beliefs come from?

I work with a lot of women, especially mothers, who are so busy giving to others that they forget to take care of themselves. Ladies, I'm here to tell you that you're doing an amazing job. You are strong. You are beautiful. You can do anything you want to do! And you know what else? You're allowed to proclaim it! Confidence is about having firm trust in yourself. How can you possibly be confident if you're expected to have a low view of your own value?! How can you believe in your ability yet be limited and small? You aren't small. You aren't limited. You are more than enough. Start believing in your value today and watch the world change before your eyes. Because, it's okay to be bold. Your voice should be heard! You're capable of anything and the possibilities are endless.

Start questioning your self-limiting beliefs today. You may find they're just some bullshit you learned growing up. Your beliefs are only beliefs. They are agreements you made somewhere along the way and you can unmake them whenever you choose. You only have to take the time to slow down, think about your beliefs, and start questioning their validity. Just cause you learned you should be humble and modest doesn't mean you can't be something else. You are capable of unlearning beliefs that do not serve you, the only requirement is to recognize which beliefs they are!

Be who and what you want to be. Define your own success because what others think of you is none of your business. Do what you want to do, because you'll only regret the shit you didn't do.

With Love and Gratitude,